Some people want their pillows a little firm, some people want their pillows extra soft. But sometimes, pillows that are either extremely firm or soft can do some harm, especially on the neck, shoulders, and the back. Pillows that are too firm can make it hard for you to toss and turn, while extra-soft pillows don’t have enough support for you neck and back. For pillows that are totally comfortable, go for buckwheat neck pillows.